Everyone knows there are things you do not say when people tell you they were sexually molested as children — things like: Well, what were you wearing? That explains a lot.
Toward the end of his life, one of my heroes, George Bernard Shaw, was asked what person in history he would most like to have been. His response was
You take it for granted. You don’t know you do, but you do. Knowing where you came from, how you came to be in the world, how you came